Monday, 30 January 2012


时常听人说人与人之间的关系建筑在诚信上,家人要互相信任方才可以和谐共处;朋友之间要彼此相信才能友谊长存;同事之间不要互相猜疑才会合作愉快;亲密情人间不可以各怀鬼胎,否则便无法执子之手。的确,诚守信诺非常重要。因为一旦人与人之间的关系失去了诚信,人性丑陋的一面便会浮现于眼前。兄弟姐妹会因此反目成仇、朋友之间会变得尔虞我诈、同事间会从此设计陷害、情人则不必多说,哀莫大于心死。

我的朋友小文是一个爱情至上的人,情人在他的心目中地位超然,更甚于家人知己。他可以为自己的情人放弃大城市的高薪厚职,回到老家做个普通的文员,目的就是为了与自己喜欢的人时常在一起,陪伴左右。可是幸运地他没有这样放弃前程,因为在接近两年的情侣关系里,他不止一次发现对方不忠,接二连三地给机会那个自以为能够瞒天过海的情人大牛。关系压力之大,令他每每回到家乡相聚的时候,会神经兮兮地常看大牛的床铺、厕所、衣柜,寻找蛛丝马迹。一次又一次的搜证、一次又一次的伤心失望、一次又一次的忍气吞声,小文终于鼓起勇气提出分手。

身为好朋友,我当然不希望他一次又一次的陷入这种情爱沼泽而痛苦,可是却也不想他跌入分手漩涡而痛苦。一半的我支持他再给对方一个机会,重新开始;另一半的我却支持他长痛不如短痛,一次分得彻底干脆。其实由始至终我对大牛的印象都不好,除了因为道听途说外,与他谈话间也觉得他不是个诚实的人,这是我的直觉告诉我的。可是无论如何,俗语说得对“宁教人打仔,莫教人分妻”,如果他俩真的因为我的个人意见而分手收场,将来他们有什么后悔不会怨天怨地,而会认定我是罪魁祸首,为他们岌岌可危的亲密关系投下原子弹,炸得灰飞烟灭。

另一边,小苏也因为诚信的问题与他拍拖4年的男友大烈闹得不愉快。小苏是我的大专同窗,求学时期大烈都在老家工作,是我们朋友群眼中的好好情人。小苏忙功课、不开心、闹脾气,大烈都会想办法哄她开心。虽然不常见面,他们倒是相处得挺愉快的,皆因两人互相信任,纵然相隔几百公里也无损两人的感情。小苏在两年前毕业回到老家工作,和大烈展开全新的两人世界。当全世界都以为小苏童话般的生活从此开始,无忧无虑地过每一天的时候,原来都是海市蜃楼。

一次又一次地接到投诉电话的我才惊觉原来公主与王子的童话生活只有在迪士尼里面才找得到。回到家乡生活的小苏原来哑子吃黄莲,与大烈从最初每天见面到生活作息、步伐不一致,从甜蜜相对到无言以对,从警告投诉到冷眼相看,可以说王子公主的生活是金玉其外、败絮其中。因为一而再、再而三的谎言令到小苏再也不相信大烈,大烈的一举一动、一言一行,都令小苏在猜测怀疑他究竟是什么葫芦卖什么药,令她步步惊心、战战兢兢。

没有诚信的关系能够长久吗?不信任对方的两个人能够永远在一起吗?没有人知道答案,也没有任何人能够切确地告诉我们什么是对,怎么做是错,因为极少人能够理智地面对以及解决爱情这回事。或者书本上没有告诉我们该怎么处理,但是我们每个人的心里或多或少都会有一个决定。而对我来说,只要这个决定令大家的痛苦减至最低最短,而且不会后悔的话,就勇敢地向前走吧!

对你的家人遵守诺言、与你的朋友一诺千金、和你的同事诚实相待、跟你的情人坦诚相见,这才是维持良好关系的重要关键。孤掌难鸣,没有家人何来避风港?独木难支,没有朋友怎么过日子?孤立无援,没有同事怎么分工合作?独立而行,没有情人何来依靠?
让我们从今天开始诚实地面对自己,诚实地面对世界。加油!

Thursday, 5 January 2012

The Whole New Wing

Everyone is facing changes in this world on a daily basis, especially when you live in the city move fast and quick. We change our clothes, hair colors, boyfriends and girlfriends everyday, and some even change their faces whenever it is needed. It seems like changes are unavoidable in human's life, but somehow, some of the changes required time for adjustment, to suit oneself into the situation, environment and feelings.

Some people adopt changes very quickly, like a chameleon, which can change their colors whenever they want to blend into the objects it stays on. On the other hand, some people are the opposite, feel hard to fit into new environment, sometime chaos and confuse.

It's been more than half a year working in a company as a little tiny executive, taking orders from everyone around me, delivering jobs which are unfamilar to me, following directions those are not always favorable for me. I always thought that I adopt changes quick and fine, however, sometimes when I first kicked start my working life, I wondered, are we slaves for work, or slaves for money?

Anyway, I'm still surviving in this company's hierarchy, the lowest bottom place where I have no place to speak what's on my mind, no space to voice out my opinion and nowhere to turn to but myself. I'm always waiting another bigger and better opportunity to get higher, be better. Take the current job positively, it trains me to become more patient, much clearer to my working objectives and living goals.

In life, maybe changes are unavoidable, but if we can turn the way we see things, or read things from different angles, think differently in a good, positive way, we should be able to find solutions, to solve our problems and dissatisfaction. And if we are good enough, we can put in to our actions, think positively, act wisely and live happily.

Spread your whole new wings and fly, be the whole new you and soar high.